How to Love Yourself - Taking Care of Yourself Through Self-Compassion

 

How to love yourself is one of life's great pleasures. Many people believe that they are lovable just by being themselves and that their good fortune is a result of their good luck. Although this sounds like a comforting thought, loving yourself truly is a form of love for yourself and will serve you well in all areas of your life.

Self-love is also one of the most important things you can do for yourself, although it may sound more important to some than others. But, in reality, self-love is actually one of the most powerful things you can do for your own happiness and well-being. When you love yourself you take care of yourself in every way. This will tend to make you feel much better about yourself and this will affect every area of your life from your relationships to your work and finances.

The science says that the way you think about yourself has a lot to do with how you experience life. So, if you love yourself then you tend to be more optimistic and happier in your life. This also has a great deal to do with how much you love yourself and the kind of relationships you have. You will tend to be more happy with your relationships when you are practicing self-love and finding ways to attract the good things in your life to you.

To practice self-love, you need to first identify what are your core beliefs about yourself. These should always be unconditional love for yourself. Once you have identified these, you then need to find ways of aligning these core beliefs with your behavior. You can do this by practicing and focusing on your inner beauty. People who love themselves often have an outwardly attractive appearance and people are attracted to this.

For example, if your core belief is that you are the best friend that you could have, then would feel bad if you did not have the best friend that you could have. This would have an effect on how you behave and interact with others around you. If you did not treat your best friend with the same care and attention that you would have given yourself, you would soon find that people did not want to be around you and that you were not popular. However, if you identified your core belief as being that you are a friend to yourself, then you would feel good about yourself and your relationships with others.

Another great way to practice self-love is to focus on all the new things that you are learning about. This may mean that you are learning a new language or new job or learning how to play a different sport. By focusing on these new things and giving yourself credit for them you are in fact increasing your value in your mind. This in itself can feel a lot better than saying that you need more money or you want to leave your job. If you truly feel that you are worth something then you will be able to think those thoughts in the presence of many people.

One of the problems with our society today is that people are focused on their differences and how they differ from others, rather than how they are similar to others. Many people place a tremendous amount of emphasis on other people's differences rather than their similarities. When we focus too much on differences we are not taking care of our own self-esteem and we are not building up our own self-esteem. Taking care of ourselves involves learning how to love ourselves and taking care of others.

The last thing that we need to discuss here is the aspect of self-judgment. Human beings as a species have a tendency to place a high level of importance on our own judgment. In fact, many people feel that we are essentially self-judgmental and self-paralysed. As long as we continue down this road we will never learn to love or respect ourselves.